Pastor's Wives

Today I was blessed to drive to Modesto with my senior pastor's wife and attend a Calvary Chapel pastor's wives luncheon. The fellowship was wonderful and the message really spoke to me on a personal level.

 Ever since I started dating my now husband, Mark, I have struggled to figure out what exactly my role is as the associate pastor's wife. Over the course of our relationship the Lord has used so many different people, messages,  and scripture to speak to me on this matter. I have also been blessed with an amazing Senior Pastor's Wife who gives me an amazing example to follow of putting her husband and family as her primary ministry.

 The title of today's message, "What a Pastor's Wife is not".

Here is what a pastor's wife is not...

A theologian - she should not be expected to know every answer to all Bible questions

A Bible teacher - unless God has specifically gifted her in that area

A counselor -unless God has specifically gifted her in that area

An administrator for the entire church - unless God has specifically gifted her in that area, and she is a paid member of the church staff

A leader: of children's ministry, worship, activities, etc.. - again unless it is her personal calling and gift

An information booth - she reads the bulletin and church announcements just like you do

Here is what a pastor's wife is....

A woman married to the pastor!!!!

She also should be....

Someone passionately in love with the Lord with all her soul, heart, and mind

Someone who recognizes her need for spiritual growth and makes steps to grow and change

Someone who strives to please God in all things not men

Someone who loves, encourages and supports her husband 100%

So to be the best pastor's wife... all I need to do is to simply, be who I am in the Lord and not who I think I should be or who I think others think I should be! 






My husband also shared this great article from Mars Hill Church with me today, on the same topic:

Loving the Pastor's Wife